Anyone who has experienced loss knows that grief isn’t a linear journey. Some moments are simply harder than others, and certain events can still dredge up trauma years after the fact. Unfortunately, one callous Redditor has not gotten that moment.
User @BuddyCamp875 took to the infamous /AmITheAsshole Subreddit for some unbiased insight into an ongoing fight with her sister. For context, she (25F) is about to get married to her fiancé (28M). Her sister, also 25, is a widow who lost her husband six years ago, just 10 days after they tied the knot.
“She knew her husband would die soon after their wedding [because] he had late stage cancer (and that was only reason they even got married),” @BuddyCamp875 explained.
Recently, @BuddyCamp875’s sister declined her invitation to attend her wedding. Nuptials are “traumatic” for her, her sis explained, and understandably so — losing your husband to cancer just days after getting married is a capital-T traumatic event. Alas, instead of being patient and empathetic, this bride doubled down and continued to press her sister about coming to her wedding.
“It was 6 years ago, so by all means, she shouldn’t be so traumatized that she’d avoid any and all weddings, including mine,” she wrote. “Honestly, I feel like this trauma thing is just an excuse not to come [because] we’ve always had a rocky relationship, but c’mon now, it’s my wedding. She should put that aside and support me during my biggest day.”
Um, newsflash to @BuddyCamp875 — the “trauma thing” her sister mentioned is real and harrowing, not some “excuse” to skip out on her special day. (How self-centered can you be?!) But the bride has refused to let it go.
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